How do we fall in love? Falling in love is first to have worked upon ourselves, honed in ourselves. We cannot fall in love if we are begging illness, if we are begging death, if we are begging sickness, if we are begging poverty, if we are begging victimization. We don’t fall in love; we only get relief, but that is not love. We have to work on ourself and we have to love what we are, like we would love us as children. We cannot look at our face in the mirror and say it is too fat or it is too old or it is ugly, my nose is too big or my eyes are too far apart or my eyes are black and blue is pretty, or blue is ugly and black is beautiful. We can’t take ourselves apart like that. We have to love us like we would love a child of ours that suckles at our breast or is protected in our great arms.
We have to learn that propaganda to the world is that the most beautiful people are already found — they are already found — and they just simply live up to an ideal of commercialism. As soon as they get one wrinkle in their face, they are out of here and they are no longer beautiful. That is not your story. You wouldn’t cast away your child because your child was not socially beautiful; at least my confidence in you is that you wouldn’t do that and that your child is yours. Love is its own beauty. Body parts don’t make beauty. Soul and Spirit make beauty. To have a child that comes from your loins, your semen, your eggs, a living, breathing incarnating Spirit that came from you, it is a miracle. Who would not love this child because they were not photogenic or they had big thighs or an oblong face or they didn’t have hair or they had too much? If you did, shame on you. Accursed is you, and to these things you will be in your next lifetime. That is a fact. You know why? Because what we resent and hold secret in this life builds the temple and the model of your next incarnation. I promise you, that is how it works.
What do we do when we fall in love? When we have worked on ourself, when we have rooted out our secrets, found the source of our anger, rooted out our self-guilt, told the truth, because you can’t love someone when you are battling your own guilt. To make them be your redeemer is idiocy. You have to do it yourself. You have to clean the vessel. That means that you have put all your attention to you, and you take your life apart and you put it back together again. Change the way you live, please. Please. Love is not what goes in your mouth. It isn’t about how much food you can consume. It isn’t about how much sex you have. It isn’t about how cool you look. It isn’t about how much money you have. It is all waste. It all turns to crap.
Now I will tell you the greatest love affair there ever was is God loving you into life and having the patience to allow you to be alive, you who have squandered it through pizza and beer, squandered it through all of your addictions. Your heart is still beating — amazing, amazing. Amazing your heart is still beating.
So when we have cured ourself, we know the only reason we are sick is because of our attitude, and it stinks, and we change it. We start being active in our life. We start forgiving ourselves by telling the truth, that we can forgive. We do. We hold no secrets. We have no monkeys on our back. And, oh, yes, the cost of telling the truth is a good relationship, money in the bank, a new truck, a new car, a garden. Telling the truth has consequences but they ain’t nothing compared to what, in the quantum world, that which we hide and suppress we are doomed to become, and the next incarnation will be built exactly on that.
Now I will tell you the greatest love affair there ever was is God loving you into life and having the patience to allow you to be alive
Did you know that all of the years that you have lived in this body that you have had great lives and you have had lousy lives, lousy, bloodsucking, leeching lives? So why is it if you were really great in one life you were such a louse in the next? Because being great in the one life was at the cost of suppressing a lot of things, just like a clever politician does. And in the next life you are that which is suppressed, and it doesn’t look so good. Do you understand?
Look at me. Mind does not die. Mind does not die. Flesh and blood will pass away, but the kingdom of heaven shall never pass away. Mind never passes away. All reincarnation is is the need to keep picking up lives that we can burn out, hoping to get to a conclusion of wisdom. Yes, you didn’t hear that. Well, that is about right. And you probably won’t ever realize this till some years after I am gone, and you will go, “My God, why didn’t I realize that then?” Well, because you didn’t want to realize that you are just an ongoing drama machine and you change more costumes than are in a Shakespearean play. You burn out bodies, but the mind goes on. And all we are looking for is that perfect marriage.
So to love, the greatest example is that we are the product of a great parent, not our partner, not our mate. You are the product of a great parent who has allowed you to be here stuffy, limited, ignorant, buffoonish, and on a bandstand preaching about your physical immortality, and all the while the wisdom of the ages is listening to this speech because it has heard it before. It ain’t going to happen.
Mind does not die. Flesh and blood will pass away, but the kingdom of heaven shall never pass away. Mind never passes away. All reincarnation is is the need to keep picking up lives that we can burn out, hoping to get to a conclusion of wisdom.
So what happens when we fall in love? Well, it is a lot different than sexual magnetism and it is a lot different than feeling sorry for somebody and it is a lot different than being drawn to a charismatic person. Falling in love is not this at all. When you really fall in love — and that is only a saying — what it really means is that love starts at the fourth seal up. It isn’t down here in the first seal. This is pure animal. I will tell you why.
When we find a person whose mind mirrors our own — mirrors: their thoughts are our thoughts, our thoughts are theirs, not because they want to be, because they naturally are — when you find a person who thinks as highly of you as you do of yourself and vice versa, the magnetic power of mind to mind is billions of years transcendent of sexual attraction. No one here has found mind to mind, but many are close. When we find our greatest mystery, our greatest hope — which is ourself — finally reflected in another one, we are confused; is it the other or is it myself? It is the same. That is when we love. Let me tell you something: If we can find someone that stares back at us as much as we stare in a mirror, we will know love.
Now is it true opposites attract? Well, absolutely. For mating purposes that is a necessity. People are attracted because they are different in the first seal. People are attracted in the second seal because there is a need and a demand. In the third seal people are attracted because someone controls your life so you don’t have to. But in the mind we are attracted because we have found the perfect mirror of our own mind. We are turned on with profound respect, admiration — listen to me — respect, admiration, all divinity. This is how we hold the great mind. We don’t want to even tarnish this with having sex; we have to get down there in the basement to do it. What turns us on is something about this other person that allows us, as if somebody cleaned the mirror and finally we are seeing ourself, and they vice versa. That is where true love is.
When you fall in love, it will not be over sexual attraction. It won’t have anything to do with sex, as much as you argue for that; it won’t. It will have to do with absolute mind, absolute power, and absolute reflection. And if you don’t have that in your life, poor you, you have just got body parts. When you have that, and to approach it just to be with it, to speak with it, to look at it, to be in awe with it is how you feel about your own sacred self. You would never denigrate your own sacred self because through self-denigration is why you don’t hear the voice. It breaks your heart that nothing in your head tells you to stand up and fight. Nothing in your head says you are better than this. There is no voice in your head that says to you you are worth living. There is no voice in your head that says that you are greater than this act. There is no voice in your head that says no. When we fall in love, we are getting to experience an anatomy of love that is the awakening of that little voice in another person. And it doesn’t start from between our legs; it starts up here. And every seal coming from here down is explored, not this long trench from here up.
When we find a person whose mind mirrors our own — mirrors: their thoughts are our thoughts, our thoughts are theirs, not because they want to be, because they naturally are — when you find a person who thinks as highly of you as you do of yourself and vice versa, the magnetic power of mind to mind is billions of years transcendent of sexual attraction.
Everyone thinks you have got to go to bed and show them you are a great lover so that they will accept you. I will tell you that I find that as primitive as animals that have not understood the noble art of mating. It is far greater to get to know a person, to know their mind, to communicate with them, and once we know that mind, that will tell us if we go any further. To do anything else is simply to blow our semen away, is simply to give our body to another person to ravish. And I don’t think that is what falling in love is about.
So will you have that? It is my most utmost desire that you have that. It is my utmost desire for you to find a woman in your life whose mind is like a steel trap, whose wonder is more beautiful in the far reaches and far corners and valleys of thought and concept, mixed in with dreams and will, or with a man — a man, no matter what he looks like — to find that man who is handsome and is noble and, as regal-looking as he is, does not fall to his lowest denominator and act like lions in heat, act like hyenas in heat, a pack of dogs doing it in the junkyard. This is a man that, unlike any other man, could easily be these things but is not, but understands them not with a force of control but simply that it is not important, but still that this man who has dreams, whose Spirit speaks through his mouth, whose passion vibrates the beating of his heart, whose concept of humanity, his place with humanity, his understanding, his love of God, his nobility of — A man who loves truth more than deception is rare. A man who loves greater than his loins is rare. When we find such a man, a noble man — I mean, they have been all through history. It doesn’t mean they are gay. Just because they don’t have sex doesn’t mean they are gay, just noble men. And to know their mind, I mean, you have to get your vibration up there to get into that mind. This is a man that is not a victim, a warrior, but a peacemaker at the same time. It is a man who tills his own field, brings in his own food, creates his own kingdom, and is responsible for joy in that kingdom and protecting that kingdom. That is a great man. And in that is a quality for all people. They are very rare to find. When you find that man and you recognize him, then maybe you are the lady who long has wanted to find such a man, and maybe you are the lady the man has longed to find, a truly polarized situation that really is a oneness in mind.
You have a lot of work to do. You have to stop being sick. You have to stop fantasizing that somebody is going to pay because you are hurting. You are too costly. Get over it. Stop breeding like dogs and start asking yourself, “Is the sexual revolution a good thing for me? In an environment of AIDS, in an environment of gonorrhea, in an environment of herpes is this a good thing for me to be this free and open like everyone wants me to? Maybe I am being told that for a reason. Maybe if I am ‘duh’ enough I am going to be one of the casualties, and so I won’t be able to live my days out into the new years of prosperity.” Maybe that is what is going on. Could be.
Stop it. You could say, “Well, I can’t help it. It comes over me.” Oh, don’t give me that. You can help everything that goes on in your body. With the moment becoming the Observer, you stop everything. Don’t tell me that. Don’t. Love yourself. Don’t lay with trash. Don’t say “I love you” and break a person’s trust. Never do that. Never. And don’t lay with people and thinking about other people. Don’t do that. That is not having control in your reality. That is compromise. That is an injustice to yourself. And don’t do things to be famous. Famous people are never real. They aren’t real. They are — they are — like mirages. They look a certain way until you get closer and closer and the mirage disappears, but when you move away, it replaces itself. Don’t want to be anything other than you.
Listen to me. Come to terms with your past religion. Come to terms with your creed. Come to terms with your bloodlines. Come to terms with your ethnic background. Come to terms with your sexuality. And the voices are going to rage now for a fortnight in your head, and what are you to do, to get manic and depressive and order ten more pizzas, two or three gallons of ice cream? Why don’t we just bring the cow in and you live with the cow in your house? It would save a lot more energy if you did it that way. Don’t do that. They are going to rage. You know why? Listen to me. I can tell you what broke my heart is that I hated without conscience — broke my heart — I hated without conscience, a fourteen-year-old absolute warrior not afraid of anything, no conscience. I hated without conscience. You know what that was? I had no voice in my head. I had nothing that reined me in. I had nothing to rely upon except an old teacher. Another human being gave me conscience. The greatest disappointment was that I didn’t already have that in my head. In the end we find that the greatest heartaches are not what other people did but what we failed to do for ourselves. I can tell you from experience.
I didn’t understand what that lady told me that gave me that sword and said conquer myself. Conquer myself? Tell a fourteen-year-old to conquer themselves, especially with my rage and my presence of being, everyone else is going to get conquered — not me, them — me against them.
My greatest pain was in my enlightenment to realize I was so dead and had no voice that spoke to my compassion and that spoke to my love and that spoke to my nobility, that I gained these traits through bloody murder without remorse — the danger that is happening in your children today — without remorse. The greatest pain in my life was that I didn’t have the Bel Shanai, who gave me the sword, talking to me in my head. And it will be your greatest regret too. Conscience has always been referred to as God’s angel. I had no angel, and I spent the rest of my life trying to find it and did.
In the end we find that the greatest heartaches are not what other people did but what we failed to do for ourselves. I can tell you from experience.
When we find out our greatest treasure — to be in love with another person, to be in love with ourself — when we are in love with that person, it is because we are in love with ourself. We expect nothing from them that we wouldn’t expect of ourselves. We ask not of them anything that we wouldn’t ask of ourselves. We expect from them what we expect from ourselves. How do I know this? How can you be in love with these voices as an orchestra in your head? Who is going to love and for how long? One voice, that is the mastery. That is the Great Work, one voice, one voice. In one voice we will find love, we will find the genuine article. One voice. If we say that we are in love but we have all of these voices in our head, then we are only in love with someone who has got just as many voices in their head. True love comes down to one. Mastery along the way is to master all of those till we get to only one, and this is what I was after all of my life.
When we find out our greatest treasure — to be in love with another person, to be in love with ourself — when we are in love with that person, it is because we are in love with ourself. We expect nothing from them that we wouldn’t expect of ourselves. We ask not of them anything that we wouldn’t ask of ourselves. We expect from them what we expect from ourselves.
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